Even when your toddler is doing something that is annoying, er, frustrating, you still love them. You may just find yourself wishing that they would quickly grow out of this particular stage. You may not know that these annoying little habits your toddler has developed are actually good for them. Here are some of those things and how it benefits your toddler’s development.
TODDLERS LOVE TO REDECORATE THE HOUSE
Whether it is meal time or play time, your toddler seems to be especially good at making spectacular messes. It may even feel like your only job is a day is to clean up your house. You have a few options when it comes to coping with your toddler’s desire to help you redecorate the house on a daily basis. One option is to invest in some good cleaning products and roll with it. You can also just let it go and not worry about the mess. This may be counterproductive because when you do decide to clean, it will take you twice as long to get your home back into order. Another solution is to contain the amount of mess that your toddler can make in your home. Use baby gates throughout your house to not only limit the amount of messes that your toddler can make, but to also keep them out of areas that are unsafe. This phase tends to only last a few months for some. The reason behind your toddler making these messes is that they are learning about their world and engaging all of their senses at the same time. They’re also working towards developing their motor skills and learning how to play independently.
TODDLERS LOVE TO SAY “NO”
This annoying little trait can leave you feeling frustrated with your toddler. No matter the question, their first response may always be a thick blanket of “no.” You might find yourself just wanting to throw up your hands and give up. The reason behind your toddler behaving this way is that they are trying to establish their own identity. As a baby, they viewed themselves as an extension of you. Now that they’ve gotten a little older, they are realizing that they’re their own person. Having this new sense of themselves causes them to want to express their independence from you. The best way to cope with this situation is to allow your toddler to feel more independent, within reason of course. Let them make more decisions for themselves. The phase will pass more quickly if they feel as though they have a say in their lives.
TODDLERS LOVE TO READ THE SAME STORY… AGAIN AND AGAIN
Having to read the same story again and again can start to make you feel as though you’re losing your mind. Children like repetition. This is how they learn and develop their abilities to use language. By reading the same story, you’re allowing your toddler to better learn how to communicate with you. Even though it may drive you nuts, give into this demand. It will pay off later when your toddler is able to tell you what they want or how they’re feeling.
TODDLERS LOVE EPIC TANTRUMS
Your toddler always seems to pick the worst time to have a meltdown, am I right? This is because they can’t express what they’re feeling. Imagine if you couldn’t convey your emotions. You would probably get pretty frustrated too. Talking to your toddler about other ways that they can cope with their emotions can help you pass this phase quicker. Just as with any phase of development, your toddler is learning about what works in the most effective manner. Give your toddler some tools to handle their emotions in order to lessen the amount of tantrums. Model appropriate responses and give them opportunities to practice in non-stressful situations.
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My daughter loved to “decorate” her room when she was a toddler. By that I mean she would find pens, crayons, literally anything and make a “picture” on her walls. Some of them are still there! I just have to roll with it lol!
Ha! Yes, we have also had our share of “wall pictures.” They look so proud (and shocked) when you stumble upon their masterpieces that are forever etched on your wall!! 🙂
The same book over and over and over. I can relate. And I feel like a jerk when I have to say enough! 🙁
Great post. Thanks for sharing. I have realized that routines are extremely important for my toddlers – we deviate a bit and we end up with really cranky kids!
Routines are SO important. It is hard to stick to a toddler’s routine for sure, but the pay off is great!
Children are a gift from God to be nurtured and loved through all their phases. Great advice.
Thanks for stopping by Rachel. Children are definitely a gift… Even toddlers in the midst of a tantrum 🙂
My daughter loves Dr. Seuss so much that I now have 4 books memorized in their entirety. ?
Ha! We are fans of Dr. Deuss over here too. Between my classroom and my kiddos, I think I have them all memorized 🙂
Well, my daughter is only 1-1/2 so far and my mom is sending more books soon. So, I am well on my way. ?
Ha! Enjoy each and every one 🙂 They really are fun books!
My children are very willful and like having their own way. As much as it is hard right now, I know that in the long run having that spirit will help them in many ways.
Oh, yes! Stubborn children drive us crazy today but will lead the world tomorrow. Good luck to you, mama!
This is a great perspective to have. I wish I would have looked at things this way when my girls were toddlers.
It is a hard perspective to have when you’re in the trenches! 🙂
This is super encouraging 1) to know I’m not alone 2) that these traits can be good 😉
You are definitely NOT alone!
Oh wow these are all so true my daughter has been redecorating for me for months now and she is getting the hand of no, we cant get a break lol.
Ha! There is never a break with toddlers! 🙂
I love the way you get into the toddler mindset and you couldn’t be more right. Every time we are out and my daughter acts out, we take a step back and think about how we would feel in her situation and it’s usually because we expected too much for a 2 year old. These tips can really help you understand your child!
Yes! Putting yourself in the mindset can definitely help… Though it is something SUPER hard! 🙂